Healing Little Hearts: How EMDR Helps Children Overcome Trauma
Written by Dr. Amy Rollo, PhD
Owner, Heights Family Counseling
Children experience the world in unique ways, and unfortunately, some experiences leave lasting emotional wounds. Whether it’s a distressing event like a car accident, the loss of a loved one, or ongoing challenges such as bullying or divorce, trauma can deeply impact a child’s emotional and psychological well-being. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a powerful, research-backed method that helps children heal from trauma, regain confidence, and feel safe in their world again.
What Is EMDR and How Does It Work?
EMDR is a structured, evidence-based therapy designed to help individuals process and heal from trauma. Unlike traditional talk therapy, EMDR focuses on the brain’s ability to reprocess distressing memories so they no longer trigger overwhelming emotions. Using guided bilateral stimulation—such as eye movements, tapping, or sounds—the therapy helps the brain reorganize traumatic memories, making them less intense and easier to cope with.
For children, this means that difficult memories or fears no longer hold the same emotional charge. Instead of reliving past experiences through nightmares, anxiety, or behavioral outbursts, kids can move forward with a sense of security and resilience.
Who Can Benefit from EMDR?
EMDR is highly effective for children struggling with various emotional and psychological challenges, including:
Trauma and PTSD – Children who have experienced accidents, medical procedures, natural disasters, or abuse can find relief.
Anxiety and Phobias – Whether it’s school-related stress, social anxiety, or specific fears (like dogs, thunderstorms, or being alone), EMDR helps children manage their emotions more effectively.
Grief and Loss – EMDR can help children who are mourning the loss of a loved one process their emotions in a healthy way.
Bullying and Self-Esteem Issues – Children who have been bullied or struggle with self-worth can benefit from EMDR’s ability to shift negative self-beliefs.
Attachment and Adoption-Related Challenges – EMDR is a valuable tool for children who have experienced disruptions in early bonding, adoption-related trauma, or separation from caregivers.
What Does an EMDR Session Look Like for a Child?
At Heights Family Counseling, our EMDR therapists create a warm, child-friendly environment where kids feel safe and supported. EMDR for children often incorporates creative and playful elements to help them engage in the process. Here’s what parents and children can expect:
Building Trust and Safety – The therapist spends time getting to know the child, ensuring they feel comfortable and secure.
Exploring the Tough Stuff (Gently!) – Through drawing, storytelling, or play, the therapist helps the child express their thoughts and feelings related to the distressing event.
Processing with Bilateral Stimulation – Using eye movements, tapping, or auditory tones, the therapist guides the child in reprocessing the memory in a way that reduces its emotional charge.
Developing New, Positive Beliefs – Instead of feeling powerless, scared, or ashamed, the child learns to see themselves as strong, safe, and capable.
Strengthening Emotional Resilience – The therapist teaches coping skills that help the child manage future stressors with confidence.
The Power of Healing
Parents often notice positive changes in their child after just a few EMDR sessions. Many children experience reduced anxiety, better sleep, improved focus in school, and greater emotional stability. Most importantly, they regain the ability to enjoy childhood without the weight of past trauma holding them back.
At Heights Family Counseling, we believe every child deserves to feel safe, confident, and empowered. If you think EMDR might be a good fit for your child, we’re here to help. Reach out today to learn more about how this transformative therapy can support your child’s healing journey.