November Position of the Month: The Bridge
Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., CST, LPC-S
Clinical Director and Certified Sex Therapist
As the year winds down and couples begin to shift into a season of reflection, connection, and warmth, November offers the perfect opportunity to explore intimacy in new ways. Physical closeness can help partners stay grounded through the busyness of the holiday season. Trying new positions can also bring excitement, curiosity, and play back into the relationship. One position that blends strength, openness, and connection is The Bridge.
Set-Up: In The Bridge position, the receiving partner lies on their back and lifts their hips into a bridge-like posture. This partner can either press their feet into the bed, raising their hips or they can, furthermore, use their hands and shoulders for additional lift. A pillow or wedge can also be placed under the hips for support and stability. The penetrating partner kneels or stands between their partner’s legs, allowing for deep, angled penetration while maintaining eye contact and connection. The position gets its name from the physical bridge formed by the lifted hips. The angle can be adjusted to suit comfort levels, and partners are encouraged to communicate frequently about what feels best.
Benefits:
Encourages deep connection and eye contact: The face-to-face positioning allows partners to stay emotionally engaged.
Enhances sensation through angled entry: The upward tilt of the hips creates a deeper and more targeted angle for penetration, which can increase stimulation for both partners.
Promotes strength and confidence: For the receiving partner, lifting the hips engages the core and glutes; creating a sense of empowerment and physical awareness.
Adaptable for comfort: Pillows, wedges, or even yoga blocks can make The Bridge more accessible and sustainable.
Encourages mutual support and trust: This position works best when both partners are attuned to each other’s needs.
Tips for Success:
Start with support: Use a pillow or wedge beneath the receiving partner’s hips to make the position more comfortable and sustainable.
Communicate about pressure and depth: The angle can be intense, so check in to ensure that movements remain pleasurable and safe.
Slow down to connect: The beauty of The Bridge lies in its intimacy. Slow, rhythmic movements enhance both pleasure and emotional connection.
Add sensual touch: The penetrating partner can explore the receiving partner’s chest, thighs, or face to maintain closeness.
Keep lubricant within reach: Because of the increased friction from the angle, having lubricant nearby ensures comfort.
Incorporate breathing: Synchronizing breath can enhance the sense of unity and presence, helping both partners stay grounded in the experience.
The Bridge encourages partners to focus on communication, presence, and trust rather than performance. For couples entering the cozy months of the year, The Bridge can be a wonderful way to reconnect. It’s a position that’s as emotionally rich as it is physically rewarding.