May Position of the Month: Beautiful Behind

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., Certified Sex Therapist

May’s highlighted position of the month is the Beautiful Behind, which is a variation of the reverse cowgirl position.  A sexual experience a great time to physically and emotionally connect with your partner, but it can also be a great time to get in a workout/cardio!  As always, I highly recommend doing some light stretching together beforehand in order to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that can arise during a sexual experience. 

For partners who are especially into seeing their partner’s derrière, this is the position for you!  To begin with, you will want a soft, flat surface such as, a bed, couch, or comfortable blanket placed on a supported surface.  The penetrating partner will lay flat on their back, while the other partner will straddle them facing the opposite direction; thus, the straddling partner will be facing their partner’s knees (giving the laying partner a great view of their partner’s behind).  The partner laying flat on their back will bend their knees upwards.  This will provide a great stabilizer for the partner straddling them.  Once lubricated, the straddled partner will slide onto their partner’s erect penis or strap-on.  They will then thrust, engage their Kegel muscles (if possible), and/or rock back and forth to develop a rhythm for penetration, all while using their partner’s knees as a support.  The laying partner can also help with determining the rhythm that is created by holding onto the upper, outer thigh area (the portion of leg directly down from the butt) of the straddled partner and by trusting their own hips upwards; like the bridge pose in yoga – be careful not to lift too dramatically though (the goal is to lift slightly in order to help with thrusting, not to lift your partner off the ground).  It is always a great idea to start slower and then speed up, so that the two of you are on the same page. 

Since this position can be held longer than other positions previously highlighted, I recommend trying it out for about 5 to 10 minutes.  Prior to beginning a sexual experience, be sure to have lubrication at the ready, so that it is only a grab away (versus realizing that you are out in the middle of a sexual experience).  Also, try to verbally share with one another what is pleasurable about this experience.  For the laying partner, this position will work the abdominals and glutes.  For the straddling partner, it will work the core, glutes, and hip flexors.

I hope you and your partner have a fun time adding something new to your sexual repertoire with this position!  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 14 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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