June Position of the Month: The Ballet Dancer
By: Katie Mitchell, M.A., LPC, CST
Senior Lead Clinical and Sex Therapist
In the realm of relationships, maintaining a vibrant and satisfying intimate connection is large contributor of long-term happiness. Let’s bring some newness to that intimate connection this June, with our new highlighted #PositionOfTheMonth: The Ballet Dancer. This position combines the grace of a ballet movement with the close, sensual connection of partner intimacy.
Setup: To get in portion, both partners will stand facing each other. One partner (typically the one with a stronger sense of balance) will stand on one leg; they will then lift the other leg and wrap it around their partner’s waist. The standing partner can then provide support by holding onto their partner's hips and/or lower back. The lifted leg can also be held in place by the partner standing on both feet, adding an extra layer of stability. With one leg wrapped around their partner, the standing partner can lean into the embrace, allowing for close, skin-to-skin contact. This position encourages eye contact, deep kissing, and verbal communication which can all enhance connection. Once stability has been gained in this position, then penetration can initiate. Movement in this position should be slow and deliberate. The standing partner can control the rhythm and depth of penetration, while the partner with the lifted leg can focus on maintaining balance and engaging in intimate touch.
Benefits: There are several benefits from trying out this position, including enhanced intimacy, improvement to balance and strength, versatility, and increased arousal. The close physical proximity and face-to-face contact promote emotional bonding and intimate communication. The Ballet Dancer also engages core muscles and promotes balance, making it a fun way to incorporate a bit of physical exercise into your intimacy. This position can also be easily modified for comfort and skill level. Couples can experiment with different angles and supports, such as using a wall or a sturdy piece of furniture for additional balance/support. Lastly, the standing nature of this position allows for deep penetration and targeted stimulation, enhancing physical pleasure for both partners.
Recommendations for success: I will also make my usual recommendations for trying out a new intimate position. Engage in foreplay to help assist in both partners being aroused and ready. If natural lubrication is a struggle, be sure to keep additional lubrication readily available. Make sure to keep an open line of communication with your partner. Discussing what feels good and making adjustments as needed can enhance the experience for both of you! In a balance challenging position like this, please use external support if needed/wanted. Don’t hesitate to use walls, chairs, or even the bed for additional stability. This can make the position more comfortable and enjoyable!
The Ballet Dancer is a beautiful and intimate position that offers both physical and emotional benefits. By incorporating it into your intimate repertoire, you can explore new depths of connection and pleasure with your partner. Remember, the key to any fulfilling sexual experience is mutual consent, communication, and a willingness to explore together. Here’s to having fun and trying something new with your partner this June!