June’s Position of the Month: Sexual Flexing

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, LPC, CST

Certified Sex Therapist

June’s highlighted position of the month is the Sexual Flexing.  June is a time of celebration #HappyPride; thus, this month I am sharing an all-orientation friendly position, that all can participate in! 

Remember to keep in mind healthy sex practices - please remain cognizant to wash your hands (and use the restroom) before and after a sexual experience!  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  As a reminder - a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins, which will help you and your partner(s) feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  As I always recommend, begin this experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (FYI – muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).  Since this is a penetrative/side position, keep in mind if you need anal lube or a peg/body harness.

Ideally, you and your partner would try this position while lying on a soft supportive surface, such as a bed, couch, or floor (with blankets).  The partner being penetrated will lay on their side supporting their upper body with the same arm as the side they are laying on.  This partner can also utilize their other arm to support their upper body in creating the shape of a >.  The partner being penetrated will also split their legs creating an “L” shape.  The penetrating partner will sit on their knees, leaned back onto their ankles for support, while also straddling their partner’s leg that is still connected to the ground.  The partner being penetrated can then rest their leg (that is raised in the air) on the penetrating partner’s shoulder.  As well as, the penetrating partner can help support their thrusting pace by holding their partner’s hips/leg.  Once penetration has occurred, the penetrating partner will have most of the control over the thrusting pace; thus, be sure to communicate verbally/nonverbally about what feels pleasurable or what needs adjusting (moving to create a different entry angle, hip openness, moving to shift weight for either partner, adjusting a harness/peg, etc.).  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their glutes and hip flexors.  For the penetrating partner, this position will work their core, glutes, adductors, and quads.  It is recommended to try this position out for 5 to 10 minutes.  If pegging, you might try out this position for less time, as it can be a more energy exerting experience.

Here’s to trying out something new in this month of celebration!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 161 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.