July Position of the Month: Girl Power

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

July’s highlighted position of the month is Girl Power.  As usual, it is recommended that if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexual engagement until both feel up to par!  And, as a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  In addition to keeping healthy sex practices in mind, I also recommend beginning any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury.  For this position, it will be especially important to stretch out the hip flexors – most especially for the partner that will be penetrated.

Ideally, you and your partner would try out Girl Power on a soft, supportive surface, such as a bed, sofa, soft blanket on the floor, etc.  The penetrating partner will lie down on their back against the soft surface.  The partner being penetrated will be the partner with most of the control for this sexual position/experience.  The partner being penetrated will face away from their partner (facing their partner’s legs/feet).  This partner will bend one knee, resting their shin on the soft surface between their partner’s legs.  The partner being penetrated will also support themselves further by bending their other knee off the ground (being supported by a firm foot stance to the outside of either of their partner’s legs).  The partner being penetrated will utilize the different heights of support (one knee on the ground and the other foot on the ground), to rock or bounce back and forth on top of their partner.  Once penetration has occurred, the partner being penetrated has control over the thrusting pace of this position – they are able to change up from fast to slow when desired.  I still recommend communicating about pleasure as much as possible, whether that is verbally or nonverbally.  If natural lubrication is not enough for either partner, be sure to have lubrication on hand, as this is not a position that you want to try out without some form of lubrication (natural or store-bought). 

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their core and glutes.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their core, glutes, hip flexors, and adductors.  It is recommended to try this position out for 5 to 10 minutes. 

Here’s to carving out some intentional and prioritized time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 240 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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