Yes, We Work With High-Conflict Couples—And Therapy Can Transform Your Relationship
Yes, We Work With High-Conflict Couples—And Therapy Can Transform Your Relationship
It’s a common myth that couples therapy is only for those in the early stages of disconnection—or that once conflict gets too intense, it’s too late. The truth is, even the most high-conflict relationships can change, and at Heights Family Counseling, we specialize in helping couples shift destructive patterns and rebuild trust, connection, and understanding.
Many of the couples we work with have been fighting for years. Some say they feel like roommates, others describe a cycle of constant miscommunication, emotional outbursts, or painful silence. Others have experienced deep ruptures like betrayal or emotional withdrawal and wonder if anything can bring them back together.
We’re here to tell you: it is possible to change how you relate to each other, even if the conflict has been going on for a long time.
Why Some Couples Fight More Than Others
It’s normal for couples to argue. In fact, research shows that most conflicts in relationships are perpetual, meaning they come up again and again. These aren't problems to be solved—they're differences to be managed. But when couples don’t have the tools to manage those recurring issues effectively, conflict can escalate, become toxic, or create emotional distance.
At Heights Family Counseling, we work with couples to break these cycles—especially when those patterns include:
Frequent blame or criticism
Escalated arguments with yelling or shutdowns
Difficulty calming down after a fight
Emotional reactivity or defensiveness
Mismatched communication styles (like pursuing and withdrawing)
Trust ruptures or betrayal
Feeling emotionally unsafe in your relationship
These are signs of high-conflict dynamics—but they’re also symptoms of deeper issues like attachment wounds, unresolved hurt, and poor communication skills. That’s where we come in.
How We Help High-Conflict Couples Reconnect
Our couples therapists are extensively trained in the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), IMAGO, and PACT, which are research-based models designed to help couples reduce conflict and build secure, lasting connections. Many of our therapists have also completed advanced trainings in treating affairs, trauma, and sexual disconnection.
Here’s how we help:
We create structure in chaos: If your arguments feel overwhelming or unproductive, we help slow things down and introduce techniques to help you talk to each other—not at each other.
We listen for what’s beneath the fight: Often, high-conflict couples are expressing fear, hurt, or a deep longing to feel loved—but those messages get lost in harsh delivery. We help you identify and speak your deeper truths.
We make space for both partners: Whether you’re the one who shuts down or the one who pushes for closeness, we help both of you feel seen, heard, and supported.
We teach you how to fight fair: Using proven communication tools, we help you interrupt destructive cycles and replace them with connection and understanding.
You Don’t Have to Be Married to Get Support
We work with couples in all stages and structures of relationships—dating, engaged, married, polyamorous, LGBTQIA+, and more. Whether you're navigating betrayal, deciding whether to stay, or trying to reconnect after having a baby, we're here for all of it.
Worried It’s Too Late? It’s Not.
We often hear from couples, “We should’ve come in years ago.” And while it's true that most couples wait far too long to seek help (an average of six years!), it’s never too late to start.
We've worked with couples who were this close to separating, and who now say they feel more connected than they have in years. Change doesn’t happen overnight, but with commitment and guidance, it can happen.
Let’s Get Started
You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Whether you’re in constant conflict or just feeling like something is “off,” couples therapy can help you build the tools to reconnect and relate to each other differently.
At Heights Family Counseling, we offer in-person counseling in Houston and San Antonio, as well as online therapy across Texas. You can begin therapy at any stage—crisis mode, rebuilding, or even prevention.
Start Couples Counseling Today
Contact our clinic for a free phone consultation
Schedule with one of our highly trained couples therapists
Start building a stronger, more connected relationship—even if you fight a lot
Your relationship deserves attention, even when things feel messy. Especially when things feel messy.