May Position of the Month: Lotus

When thinking about what sexual position to showcase this month, I kept thinking of the old saying April showers bring May flowers.  Thus, for this month’s position I choose the flower-themed, Lotus position.  Lotus is designed to enhance intimacy and foster closeness between partners.  It is also considered a tantric sexual position and thus, it is meant to be a slow, mindful sexual experience versus a quick sexual experience. 

When getting into this position, the male partner, or partner who will be penetrating, will sit on the floor/ground in the Lotus yoga position.  Thus, this partner will be sitting up with their legs either pulled in close to the body or crossed over one another (think criss-cross applesauce).  It is completely okay if you cannot cross your legs, but still have them pulled in as comfortable as possible to the body.  The other partner will then lower themselves down (having the Lotus partner penetrate you at the same time), wrapping their legs around the seated partner; you should be facing one another.  It is especially important for the partner who has lowered themselves down on top of the seat partner to be properly supported.  This does not mean you sit on your partners feet; instead, focus on supporting yourself from your partner’s thighs. If you find that you are sitting on your partner’s feet or ankles have them pull their feet out more. 

Once the two of you are comfortably supported by one another, the two you will wrap arms around one another for support. As I mentioned earlier, this position helps to cultivate closeness and sexual intimacy, so this is the time that you can each use your hands and arms to caress and explore one another.  This is not a position that focuses on thrusting, instead once the seated partner has penetrated the partner sitting on them, the two of you will focus on slow grinding motions versus quick thrusting motions.  The partner sitting on top can lean back if desired and supported by the other partner (very important to be supported), in order to gain a better angle for g-spot stimulation.  As a reminder this position is meant to be a mindful sexual experience with your partner.  Try not to keep track of how much time you’ve been in the position; instead focus on being in the moment with your partner and facilitating closeness. 

Although this positions is a bit more user friendly than some of the others that I have highlighted in this blog series, I would still recommend to do some light stretching before any sexual activity, as doing so will help to reduce the risk of injury.  Also, Lotus is typically designed for a male and female, but could easily be adapted for two females utilizing a strap-on. 

Remember to take your time with this position and enjoy the experience! I hope you and your partner have an amazing time connecting and caressing one another!

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., LPC-Intern, CST-Candidate

Katie Mitchell is a counselor and Certified Sex Therapist-Candidate at Heights Family Counseling. She believes in using a solution-focused therapeutic approach to therapy, in order to empower clients to discover more effective solutions to their problems. Katie aims to foster a non-judgmental, accepting environment that helps clients to feel comfortable sharing their deepest thoughts and self-reflections. Katie enjoys working with a variety of clientele, such as individuals, couples, and families.  She also enjoys working with both individual and relational sexual concerns.  She understands that an active sex life is incredibly important for most individuals, especially those in a relationship. Learn more about Katie by visiting,, or learn more about our services at,