March Position of the Month: The Rocking Horse
By: Katie Mitchell, M.A., LPC, CST
Clinical Director and Certified Sex Therapist
Intimacy is a crucial part of any romantic relationship, and exploring new ways to connect physically can deepen emotional bonds, increase excitement, and enhance overall satisfaction. One position that combines sensual movement with deep connection is The Rocking Horse. This position is all about rhythm, closeness, and a smooth, rocking motion that can create an intimate and pleasurable experience for both partners.
Set-Up: The Rocking Horse is a seated position that involves both partners facing each other, creating a close, connected experience. The penetrating partner sits on a sturdy surface—such as a chair, bench, or the edge of the bed—while the partner-being-penetrated straddles them, wrapping their legs around their partner’s waist. Instead of bouncing or thrusting, the movement is a slow, controlled rocking motion, allowing for deep, intimate connection and full-body engagement. As always, it would be beneficial for both you and your partner to complete some light stretching prior to initiating sexual intimacy.
Benefits of the Rocking Horse:
1. Increases Intimacy and Emotional Connection: Because both partners are face-to-face, The Rocking Horse encourages deep eye contact, affectionate touch, and a strong emotional bond. This position is perfect for those looking to enhance closeness during intimacy.
2. Encourages Slow, Sensual Movement: Unlike faster-paced positions, The Rocking Horse promotes a more intentional and controlled rhythm. This allows partners to focus on sensations and build anticipation, making for a deeply satisfying experience.’
3. Enhances Full-Body Stimulation: With both partners sitting upright, The Rocking Horse allows for full-body engagement. The partner-being-penetrated can lean in to kiss, caress, or embrace, while the penetrating partner can support movement and provide additional stimulation through touch.
4. Balanced Control and Shared Movement: This position allows both partners to contribute to the movement, making it an excellent choice for those who enjoy shared control in their intimate experiences.
5. Great for Different Pacing and Exploration: The rocking motion can be varied to suit different levels of desire and comfort. Partners can start slow and increase intensity as they become more in sync, creating a build-up of pleasure and connection.
Tips for Success:
1. Choose a Stable Surface: Ensure the seated partner is on a sturdy chair, bench, or firm bed edge to provide proper support and stability.
2. Focus on the Rocking Motion: Unlike thrusting motions seen in other positions, The Rocking Horse relies on a gentle forward and backward rocking motion, which can create a deep and stimulating sensation.
3. Enhance Connection with Touch: Since this position brings both partners close, it’s a great opportunity to explore touch. Stroke each other’s back, arms, or face to deepen the emotional and physical experience.
4. Use Verbal and Non-Verbal Communication: Check in with your partner to ensure comfort and enjoyment. Eye contact, moans, and body language can help guide the experience, creating a more connected and fulfilling encounter.
5. Experiment with Angles and Movement: Small changes in the tilt of the hips or the pace of the rocking motion can create different sensations. Partners should feel free to adjust until they find what feels best.
6. Have lubricant on hand: It is always better to have lubricant that is accessible, than to need it and not have it available!
Beyond physical pleasure, The Rocking Horse is an ideal position for strengthening emotional intimacy, reinforcing trust, and enhancing overall relationship satisfaction. The close-contact nature of the position encourages vulnerability, presence, and mindfulness, all of which contribute to a deeper romantic and sexual connection. The Rocking Horse prioritizes connection and control while allowing both partners to feel fully engaged and present with each other.
Ready to ride the wave of connection? Give The Rocking Horse a try this March and see how it strengthens your bond and deepens your intimacy.