Best Version of You?!?

I was taking an online spin class this evening, and the instructor yelled “be the best version of you!” Being the counselor that I am, I immediately drifted off into “what the heck is the best version of me?” After sweating for another 20 minutes, cursing at the onscreen instructor for making me work more than I was wanting tonight, and then feeling the endorphins kick in, I realized what my best version was. It is being completely accepting of me because I live my life with the same self-compassion that I use on others. Hope and grace are my two favorite words, and the words that I have lived by in my life.

You see, my authentic self is a bit messy, okay entirely way too messy in the eyes of most. I sometimes work too hard, but sometimes work too little in other areas. I care too much at times, but get hurt easily. If I was my own counselor, I would immediately stop myself right here as it seemed like a negative spiral…but I’m not being negative. In fact, I’m completely satisfied with these areas of me and my life. I realized the value system I created for my life was finally authentic. It no longer was my friend’s, husband’s, neighbor's, or parent’s values. My self-compassion has led to self-discovery.

The best version of me isn’t living a life of unrealistic expectations. It isn’t a clean house. It isn’t a perfect parenting day. It is living in the moment, laughing often, taking care of myself and others, it is showing love to my friends and family, it is hope, it is grace, and it is self-compassion.

I’m curious what your best versions are. It might be a bit different that you once thought, once you let go of other people's visions of you and really consider what matters to you.

Written by Amy Rollo, M.A., LSSP, LPA, LPC-S

Amy Rollo is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor and owner of Heights Family Counseling. Amy has been practicing counseling and diagnostic evaluations for fifteen years. She has doctoral level training in the areas of child and adolescent counseling, evaluations, marriage and family therapy, and adult counseling. Amy Rollo provides counseling and evaluation services in the Houston Heights and surrounding areas. Amy’s goal in counseling is to journey with her clients in order to foster positive changes and growth in their lives. Read more about Amy's counseling style by visiting and read more about her services