February Position of the Month: Torrid Temptress

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

The highlighted position of the month is here – and it’s February, the month for celebrating love!  While we can celebrate any day or month of the year – Valentine’s Day acts as an easy reminder!  Per my usual recommendations,  if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexually engagement until both feeling up to par.  As a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  

February’s highlighted position of the month is Torrid Temptress.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  Start any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury. 

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Torrid Temptress on supportive surface (such as a sofa, cushioned lounge chair, or bed that is closer to the ground).  The penetrating partner will lay on their back and hang their upper body off the side/surface of bed/sofa to where their head can rest on the ground.  The penetrating partner will want to be supported up to their lower back (legs and buttocks on the supported surface).  The partner being penetrated will straddle their partner, facing towards their partner’s upper body.  As the partner being penetrated lowers themselves onto their partner erect genitalia, it is incredibly important for the partners to communicate with one another regarding pleasure.  Once straddling their partner, the partner being penetrated will also hang their legs off the side of the supportive surface of which they are laying.  Ideally, the partner being penetrated could touch the floor with their feet, in order to have more ability/power to thrust during penetration.  The partner being penetrated can also place their hands on their partner’s chest to help support themselves.  The penetrating partner can also lightly touch/graze the back of their partner’s legs/thighs during penetration.  Now that thrusting and penetration can take place, again it is very important for the partners to effectively communicate regarding pleasure or alterations that are needed.

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their glutes.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their core, glutes, and quads.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes. 

I hope you and your partner(s) are able to carve out some specific time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another.  Maybe this is something to cue into your Valentine plans!  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 158 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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