“I can’t believe this is happening!”
“How could they do this to me?”
“What am I supposed to do now?”
These are all common thoughts one has after finding out their partner betrayed them. These thought are typically followed by feelings of anger, denial, shock, and depression.
Affairs Cause Trauma
What many people don’t realize is that the person betrayed often experiences a trauma. The person and life they thought they knew is gone. Their relationship has been forever changed. Now, they are uncertain of what the future will bring. The trauma often brings a rollercoaster of moods and emotions. Some days the relationship might seem to be working and others it seems like all is lost.
Our Approach to Helping You Recover From an Affair
Let us assure you, these feelings are all normal. While there are many consistencies we find between different couples who experience an affair, there are just as many differences. That is why we tailor our therapy approach to meet your unique experiences and concerns. When you come to Heights Family Counseling in one of your most difficult moments, we want you to know that you are in good hands.
Our couples therapists have lots of training from the biggest names in the couples therapy field including the training intensive Gottman Treating Affairs and Trauma, works from Esther Perel, and Michele Weiner-Davis, as well as extensive training in sex therapy. So, we understand how important the affair recovery work is.
Affairs are Common
Affairs are painful and common. Almost 50 % of couples go through an affair/boundary cross at some point in their lifetime. Despite the pain, grief, and trauma of the experience, many feel like they are unable to talk about the experience even with their closest friends and family members. This can make the experience even more isolating.
Because of this, our therapy team feels honored to be able to specialize in affair recovery in individual, group and couple formats. Everyone deserves to have their emotions heard and understood. Individual counseling can be a safe place to discuss anything. No topic is off-limits. We provide warmth, empathy, and most importantly, understanding. You are not alone in your feelings. We also understand that most individuals who have experienced a betrayal, experience trauma and PTSD like symptoms. We can provide the necessary treatment to help you heal and find relief.
What Happens During Affair Recovery Therapy
When a couple enters couples counseling after an affair, many have no idea where to start. Trust is lost and there is often anger and hurt. For many couples, when they try to work on it on their own, they end of fighting even more. We are here to help you through the healing and recovery process. We help lead through the difficult conversations, while also providing a roadmap into how to navigate things while not in session. Our goal is to not get the relationship to where it was before the boundary cross, but to actually create a stronger one.
Discernment Counseling
For other couples, they are not sure whether they want to go forward after an affair. Discernment counseling can help couples determine whether they want to stay together or separate. Divorce can feel like such a scary decision because of the permanence of it. We seek to provide clarity on the right choice for you as well as confidence in your decision.
Sex Therapy
For many couples, sexual intimacy can change after an affair. For some, you might recognize that you are having sex more than ever before, or that sex is better than it has been in a long time. Other couples have a hard time being intimate again. All of this is normal. We have certified sex therapists and sex coaches that can help strengthen your sexual intimacy and understand the impact a boundary cross can have on your sex life.
Begin Affair Recovery Therapy in Houston, TX or San Antonio, TX:
An affair is traumatic and an extremely challenging experience for any couple to go through. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Our therapists seek to provide you with clarity on the next steps in your relationship. And, should you choose to stay, we will offer you tools to improve your relationship and make it stronger than ever. To begin therapy in the Houston Heights or San Antonio’s Alamo Heights neighborhood, follow these steps:
Contact our counseling clinic to set up a free phone consultation.
Meet with one of our couples therapists
Begin affair recovery therapy to heal from the past recover from an affair
