September Position of the Month: Straddle Up- From Our Sex Therapist

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., Certified Sex Therapist

September’s highlighted position of the month is the Straddle Up, which is a variation of female-on-top (or cowgirl) position.  A sexual experience is a great time to physically and emotionally connect with your partner, but it can also be a great time to get in a workout/cardio together!  As always, I highly recommend doing some light stretching together beforehand to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience.

For partners who love to have eye contact during a sexual experience, this is a great position for you both!  In order to get into this position, try laying on a soft surface – like a bed, wide sofa, or blanketed surface.  If a soft surface is unavailable, be weary that knee burns are likely to occur.  The penetrating partner will lay on their back, while the other partner will straddle them facing the same direction (you should both be looking at each other face to face).  The penetrating partner will help to support themselves by leaning up on their elbows and holding their hands out for the straddling partner to place their knees on.  The penetrating partner can also add some flexibility to this position by having their knees in an “M” position (bent and on the outside of their legs) or just laid out flat.  The straddling partner will hold onto the torso of their partner to help move and thrust.  With thrusting, it is always a great idea to start slower and then speed up, so that the two of you are rhythmically on the same page.  This position allows you both to have a great view of one another bodies and allows for a great deal of eye sight to be shared.

This position can be held for a longer period of time, so I would recommend trying it out for about 5 to 10 minutes.  Prior to beginning a sexual experience, be sure to have lubrication at the ready, so that it is only a grab away (versus realizing that you are out in the middle of a sexual experience).  As a heads up - for the laying partner, this position will work the deltoids, core, hip flexors, glutes, and quads.  For the straddling partner, it will work the core and glutes.  

I hope you and your partner have a fun time adding something new to your sexual repertoire with this position!  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 116 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.