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­Gottman: Date 6

This week we are on to date number six: fun and adventure!  The Gottmans’ and Abrams’ discuss the vital importance play has in a relationship, stating that couples who play together, stay together.  And, play is not just for children – our sense of adventure and need for play, never goes away.  This date focuses on gaining a better understanding of what play means for your partner and what the two of you might enjoy doing together.  Questions to discuss on this date might be:  When was the last time you felt excited or curious while you were with your partner? 

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Gottman: Date 4

This week we are on to date number four: work and money.  Research has shown that financial arguments are the single best predictor of divorce and are one of the top five reasons couples fight.  With this information in mind, figuring out the meaning of money and work is incredibly important for the success of your relationship.

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Gottman 8 Dates: Date One

If you follow our social media pages, you may have noticed the influx of Gottman quotes that have been used in the past few weeks.  These quotes have been pulled from their latest book, Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of LoveEight Dates is a date guide about 8 different beneficial conversations that help connect and unify couples. 

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Date Night: Make It A Priority

According to John Gottman, PhD, researcher and couples therapist extraordinaire, date night is an essential pillar in healthy relationships. It may be easy to write this practice off as frivolous and unnecessary, but it’s neither. Date Night is about quality time spent connecting to one another through relaxation, play, and focused attention.

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The Volcano and The Turtle

Once upon a time, there was a Volcano and Turtle. No, this is not a kid’s story about speed or racing or pacing or how to get ahead. It’s a story about passion and composure. Intensity and calm. Eruption and shelter.

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Five Ways to Build Intimacy with Your Partner

I wanted to provide you all with some helpful information on reconnecting after the holiday stress.  Here are 5 simple ways to help build intimacy with your partner!

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January 2019 Position from Our Sex Therapist: The Firecracker

With many people having celebrated the new year earlier this week with firecrackers, this month’s featured position of the month is The Firecracker!  As a heads up, this position might be a bit tricky to get into, so you and your partner might find it helpful to talk about this position beforehand.

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Rainy Days- Weekend Vibes

Rainy days giving you the blues?  Wondering what you can do to have fun within your home, get some energy out and feel rested afterwards?  No worries, rainy days do not need to mean that your mood and energy levels inside must mirror what is happening outside.  There is a variety of activities you can do as a couple, individually and as a family.

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Coping with Relational Stress as the Holidays Approach

Y’all we are 9 weeks away from Christmas!  When I heard this announcement on the radio earlier this week, my immediate thought was, “how is this even possible?”  My next thought went directly to how much stress often comes with the holiday season.  It can be easy to feed off stress, chaos, and frustration in all seasons of life, but somehow the holiday season often intensifies this experience for couples. 

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Withholding Affection

Often, I work with couples who, by the time they find themselves in my office, have built a mountain of resentment towards one another.  I have found that one of the things that helps in being able to process their resentment and move forward from it, is to talk about how two opposing truths can exist within the same emotional space.  Meaning that: one can be disappointed and hurt by something their partner has said and/or done, and can also still love their partner (show them physical and emotional love). 

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Breathing Exercise of the Week!

This week’s breathing exercise is probably the one I employ most frequently in my everyday life. It’s so simple to do (it doesn’t require any facial or body manipulation), and it’s incredibly effective for the moments when I need a little “emergency calm”. If you suffer from any kind of anxiety, this breathing technique can be a great tool for you slow down your heart rate, and calm your body and mind before those stressful feelings of anxiety get out of control.

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August Position of the Month: The G-Whiz from our Sex Therapist

August’s position of the month, the G-Whiz, is taken from the Men’s Health Magazine’s article: 45 Sex Positions that Every Man Should Know (I highly recommend checking out this article and the other 44 positions).  This position is a perfect way to increase the heat between you and your partner – the two of you might be able to match the heat outside!

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