June’s Position of the Month: Heavenly Hold

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., LPC, NCC, CST

Certified Sex Therapist

June’s highlighted position of the month is the Heavenly Hold.  June is a time of celebration #HappyPride; thus, this month I am sharing an all-orientation-friendly position, that all can participate in! 

Even though many are now vaccinated and we are all deciding what “normal” life will return to, I ask you to keep in mind healthy sex practices - please remain cognizant to wash your hands (and use the restroom) before and after a sexual experience!  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  As a reminder - a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins, which will help you and your partner(s) feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  As I always recommend, begin this experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (FYI – muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).  Since this is an oral sex position, keep in mind if you are a person who is self-conscious about receiving oral sex (smells are completely normal, but if you do fall into this category a gentle genital wash or flavored personal lubricant might be a perfect tool for you)!

Ideally, you and your partner would try this position out while leaning against a wall (I know what you’re thinking, but hear me out, first).  The partner performing oral will anchor their feet for support, and then hold their partner up on their shoulders (you will be lateral with and facing your partner’s genitals), as well as, support their partner’s buttocks with their hands.  This partner will also lean towards the wall for support.  The partner receiving oral, will support themselves by leaning into the wall behind them (this partner’s back will be against the wall), cross their ankles/squeeze thighs into performing partner’s head, and hold onto their partner head/hair with their hands.  If you and your partner(s) don’t feel like trying out something acrobatic against a wall, you can easily translate this position to take place on a bed or sofa – just remember to still have the receiving partner fold their legs around their partner’s head and still utilize the touch of their partner’s hair for added sensuality.  Once climax has been reached for the receiving partner, you are welcome to slide down the wall to your partner’s genitals and return the favor!

Remember to communicate with each other about pleasure and comfortability – you can’t read each other’s minds!  Talk about what feels good or what you want your partner to do more of (or shift – more forwards, backwards, left, right, etc.).  For the partner receiving, this position will work their biceps, lats, core, and quads.  For the partner performing, this position will work their core and adductors.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes.  

Here’s to trying out something new in this month of celebration!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 32 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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