July Position of the Month: Breath-Taking Balance

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

Breath-Taking Balance, July’s highlighted position of the month is here!  This oral sex position comes with added challenges which could make for either great pleasure or great laughs (or both).  While a sexual experience can aid in feeling emotionally connected to partner(s), it is also an opportunity to get your blood pumping and release physical energy.  A sexual experience will release Oxytocin, “the love drug,” and other beneficial endorphins that help you feel bonded to a sexual partner and release stress/tension.  For this position it will be especially important to being with some light stretching to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise, as these are the most common sexual injuries. 

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Breath-Taking Balance on a stable supportive floor, although having a blanket for one partner to kneel on could be an added comfort.  An exercise ball will also be needed for this position.  The partner providing oral sex will be kneeling on their knees (soft blanket underneath may be more comfortable).  The receiving partner will be utilizing the exercise ball.  This same partner will sensually lean over the exercise ball supporting themselves with their hands and upper body strength; their legs can either drape over their partner’s shoulders or they can keep one leg up for an added challenge.  The providing partner will then perform oral sex, holding onto their partner’s outer thighs or hips for added support.  Even with an oral sex position, it is very important for partners to effectively communicate regarding pleasure or alterations that are needed.  If this position is outside of your usual wheel house of sexual positions, be sure to not take yourselves so seriously – this can be something fun to try out regardless of how it goes.

For the providing partner, this position will work their biceps and abdominals.  For the receiving partner, this position will work their deltoids, core, and hip flexors.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes. 

I hope you and your partner(s) are able to carve out some specific time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another this July.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 301 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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