May Position of the Month: Rock and Roll

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

The Rock and Roll, May’s highlighted position of the month is here!  While a sexual experience can aid in feeling emotionally connected to a partner(s), it is also an opportunity to get your blood pumping and release physical energy.  A sexual experience will release Oxytocin, “the love drug,” and other beneficial endorphins that help you feel bonded to a sexual partner and release stress/tension.  Per usual, I will give my recommendation of starting any sexual experience by doing some light stretching to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise, as this is the most common sexual injury. 

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Rock and Roll on a soft supportive surface, such as a bed, couch, floor, etc.  The penetrating partner will sit back with their abs engaged and their knees bent upwards (feet placed on the ground for support).  The partner being penetrated will also sit back with their core engaged.  The partners will be facing one another with their legs intertwined.  Instead of supporting their feet on the ground (like the penetrating partner) the partner being penetrated will place their feet on the outer hips of their partner.  The partner being penetrated can also hold onto their partner’s inner or outer thighs (with their hands) to help support themselves.  The penetrating partner will place their hands on the shoulders of their partner to help support themselves.  Once in position, penetration can occur.  Instead of a traditional thrusting pattern, the two partners will work together rocking back and forth to a create a pleasurable rhythm.  As usual, once penetration occurs, it is very important for the partners to effectively communicate regarding pleasure or alterations that are needed.  If this position is outside of your usual wheel house of sexual positions, be sure to have lubrication on hand!

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their lats and core.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their core.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes.  Again per my usual recommendations,  if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexual encounters until feeling up to par.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.

I hope you and your partner(s) are able to carve out some specific time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another this May.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 104 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

If you’re struggling with physical intimacy, reach out to find out how sex therapy could help.