As humans, we are relational beings. We all want to connect to others and have fulfilling relationships. We understand that relationship problems can be very painful for all involved.
When relationships are going well, it feels like your whole world is better. When your relationship is struggling, it feels like your entire world is crumbling.
What most couples don't realize is that research shows the majority of fights in a relationship have no solution. In fact, they are perpetual problems. This means that most couples keep fighting over the same things, and their fights keep playing out the same way. Many couples wait 6 years once problems arise before entering counseling. That’s 6 whole years of playing out fights on repeat. We can help with that!
Heights Family Counseling Specializes in Providing High Quality Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling
Our couples counselors use a variety of interventions to help strengthen your relationship including Gottman Method, IMAGO Relationship Therapy, PACT, Solution-Focused, and Emotion Focused Couples Therapy.
The gottman method
All of our couples therapists are trained in Gottman Couples Therapy. This is the most researched based couples intervention. Furthermore, Many of us have achieved the highest level training through the Gottman Institute.
Gottman Couples Therapy can work for couples who experience even minimal conflict and difficulties, and can help stop dysfunctional patterns of even the most high conflict relationships!
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling are:
Thrive during conflict- this is a fancy way of saying fight fair and fight to understand
Increase emotional and physical intimacy, mutual respect
Create a heightened sense of empathy and attachment
We speak the language of couples and often know that the words used to navigate fights are not the intentions of the partners. We help couples dig deeper in order to create a more meaningful and lasting connection. Read more about the benefits of the Gottman Method by reading our blog on Predictors of Divorce and our blog on the Four Horsemen.
Affair Recovery
Affairs are much more common than we realize, and they can shake the relationship to its core. Many times, the betrayed partner is left with PTSD/trauma, as their world was suddenly flipped upside down. Often, each partner feels shame and embarrassment and are unable to talk about the betrayal outside their partnership. Many couples wonder if their relationship will ever feel the same again.
The counselors at Heights Family Counseling are extensively trained in the Gottman Couples Therapy Method, including the Gottman Treating Affairs and Trauma training intensive. Through these researched and proven methods, couples learn the steps to rebuilding and recreating marriages.
The desired outcome for affair recovery counseling is to have a stronger marriage than before the betrayal.
Premarital Counseling Can Lower your Risk of Divorce by 30 Percent!
Premarital Counseling has been proven to lower your risk of divorce by 30%!
No one enters marriage thinking they will have problems or divorce, but about half of marriage fail and even more continue to erode. While couples counseling can be effective at any time, there is no better time than before the problems start. We use proven premarital curriculums, including Prepare and Enrich and the Gottman Method to ensure that the marriage is ready for all the plot twists life brings.
We Work With All Couples
We work with all couples, including monogamous, polyamorous, kink-identified, and LGBTQIA+. Our couples counselors are licensed therapists with extensive training in couples counseling and expertise in LGBTQ+ counseling. We can also help navigate issues such as open relationship conflict and creating boundaries.
Many of our counselors are Certified Sex Therapists and are trained to be able to work through any sexual problems and explore sensitive issues in order to create solutions.
Do We Have to Be Married to Attend Couples Counseling?
The short answer is no. Our couples therapist can help any committed couple wanting to improve their relationship whether or not you are married. While many couples who come into our counseling office are married; many are not. Our couples therapists are inclusive of all types of relationships and want to help you find meaningful connection regardless of your marriage status.
So, Could We Benefit From Couples Counseling?
Couples counseling can help with communication, connection, connecting after having a baby, emotional and sexual intimacy, conflict, attachment, discernment (deciding whether to stay in a marriage), and creating a more healthy relationship.
IF YOU ARE CURIOUS IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP COULD USE A TUNE-UP, TAKE THIS QUICK QUIZ BELOW:
When disagreeing, we often play the “find the bad guy” instead of truly understanding each other’s perspective.
There is a pursue/withdraw pattern to conflict. One person pursues in anger while the other person shuts down.
You often feel misunderstood by your partner.
When in conflict, one or both criticizes the other.
During conflict or conversation, one partner responds defensively instead of taking responsibility.
There is contempt in the relationship, such as name calling
During conflict, one partner stonewalls by withdrawing emotionally from the conversation.
There are more negative interactions than positive.
There has been a physical or emotional affair.
You have difficulty navigating stressful conversations.
You bicker easily.
You have considered a separation.
Sex is no longer the best.
You feel like the friendship is eroding.
IF YOU ANSWERED YES TO 2 OR MORE OF THESE QUESTIONS, YOU WOULD likely BENEFIT FROM Couples Therapy or Marriage COUNSELING.
Begin Couples Therapy or Marriage Counseling in Houston, TX or San Antonio, TX:
The couples therapists at Heights Family Counseling are passionate about helping building healthier relationships. We firmly believe that couples counseling can help couples communicate more effectively, fight fair, and build connection. Follow these steps to begin counseling in Houston, TX or San Antonio, TX:
1. Contact our counseling clinic to set up a free phone consultation,
2. Meet with one of our couples therapists
3. Begin couples counseling to help strengthen your relationship.
