March Position of the Month: Seated Scissors
Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC
Lead Therapist and Sex Therapist at Heights Family Counseling
I’m excited to bring y’all March’s highlighted #PositionOfTheMonth: Seated Scissors. This versatile position offers intimacy, connection, and a dash of excitement for couples looking to spice things up in the bedroom.
In order to get into position with the Seated Scissors, you and your partner will sit facing each other, with one partner straddling the other's lap. With straddling legs, you and your partner’s will be intertwined, creating a scissoring motion. Once in a comfortable position (work out the kinks of leg placement, etc., move to penetration. Again, penetration may take some open communication and possibly having lubricant on hand, if this is a new position for your repertoire. Talk about any desired changes or alterations in positioning, boundaries, and other communication needed to make this experience enjoyable for both of you. Ideas that might help add to this experience:
Experiment with Angles: Don't be afraid to adjust your positioning to find what works best for you and your partner. Explore different angles and levels of intimacy to enhance your experience.
Add Sensory Stimulation: Incorporate sensory elements such as gentle touch, massage, or erotic whispers to heighten the sensations and deepen the connection between you and your partner. This could also be the time to discuss adding a vibration element (penis ring), warmth (candles for ambiance), and/or massage oil for a tactile change.
Focus on Mutual Pleasure: Remember that sexual intimacy is about mutual pleasure and connection. Pay attention to your partner's cues and responses and prioritize their enjoyment as much as your own. Remember if nonverbal are difficult to read on your partner during a sexual experience, you can always ask to help remove assumptions!
Seated Scissors allows for eye contact, kissing, and deep emotional connection as you and your partner embrace each other in close proximity. As always with our #PositionOfTheMonth, I invite you to explore new possibilities, deepen your connection, and reignite the passion in your relationship. Remember, the key to great sex is communication, exploration, and a willingness to try new things together.
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