October’s Position of the Month: Rock Bottom

WRITTEN BY KATIE MITCHELL, M.A., NCC, LPC, NCC
CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST

October’s highlighted position of the month is the Rock Bottom.  With COVID variants continuing to spread, please keep healthy sex practices in mind - please remain cognizant to wash your hands (and use the restroom) before and after a sexual experience!  Another comfortable and sensual way to start a sexual experience is to take a shower together.  And, as always, it might be a good idea to rain check physical intimacy if either of you are feeling under the weather. 

A sexual experience will release oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins, which will help to increase the emotional bond between you and your partner(s), plus it’ll also release stress and tension.  As I always recommend, try to begin any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during physical intimacy (FYI – muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).  

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Rock Bottom on a soft, well supported surface, such as a bed or (soft) flooring.  Softness is especially important to remember as the penetrating partner will kneel on their knees.  The partner being penetrated will face down on the soft surface, laying their shoulders and chest on the soft surface (arms can be spread out for support), while kneeling on and bending their knees (in order to lift their groin area off the soft surface and be level with the penetrating partner’s groin).  The penetrating partner will also kneel on their knees, but their upper body will stay upright (unlike the partner being penetrated).  For support, the penetrating partner can hold onto their partner’s hips/core with one hand and lean their other hand on the soft surface.  Once penetrating has occurred, the partner being penetrated can squeeze their glutes and lift one leg behind their partner’s back (much like a donkey kick).  The Rock Bottom is a rear entry position that allows for both vaginal and anal play.  Not only does it provide versatile play, it also a great g-spot stimulator (for couples where the partner being penetrated is female).  Both partners can also consciously work their core muscle groups for added support. 

Once penetration has occurred, the penetrating partner will have most of the thrusting pace control.  Be sure to find a pace that is pleasurable for both by starting out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability.  For the penetrating partner, this position will work their core, glutes, hip flexors, and hamstrings.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will also work their core, glutes, hip flexors, and hamstrings.  It is recommended to try out this position for 5 to 10 minutes.  If this is a new position for either of you, keep in mind to have lubrication on hand.  Lubrication is always important for trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it’s a benefit to have it be a grab away, versus realizing you are out!

Here’s to carving out some time to try something new this October!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 217 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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