June Position of the Month: Navel Gazing- From Our Certified Sex Therapist

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, LPC, CST

Certified Sex Therapist

It’s officially June which means it is time to celebrate Pride across the world.  While many Pride parades and celebrations have been postponed across the nation (including our own Houston Pride Parade) due to COVID-19, we are still celebrating you at Heights Family Counseling.  June’s position of the month is the Navel Gazing.  How many people enjoy being able to make eye contact while orally pleasing a partner?  This is not an uncommon experience, but can be made more difficult to do when offering oral pleasure to a partner in a traditional position.  Navel Gazing offers a creative twist to giving/receiving oral sex so that visual gazes can be more easily exchanged.  Also, one of the great things about this position is that it can be enjoyed by any and all couples, as long as you’re flexible enough!  Sexual experiences are not only a great time to physically and emotionally connect with your partner, but it can also be a great time to get in a workout/cardio!  And as always, I highly recommend doing some light stretching together beforehand in order to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience.  

When thinking of where you and your partner might try out this position, keep in mind that the partner who will be receiving the oral pleasure will likely desire a comfortable soft surface, like a bed or sofa.  In order to get into this position, the partner that will be providing the oral pleasure will kneel on their knees.  The partner who will be receiving the pleasure can start by lying on their back in front of their kneeling partner.  The two of you will work together to pull the receiving partner’s legs over the kneeling partner’s shoulders.  At this point, the receiving partner will only have their upper shoulders and head touching the soft, supportive surface.  This partner will want to utilize their arms to provide more support to their back and engage their core, much like a yoga back stand (see here).  This partner can also use their legs to pull their partner in closer to them, by either folding their legs over their partner’s shoulders or extending and lifting one leg.  The partner providing the oral pleasure not only will do so at this point, but they will also help to support their partner and themselves by holding onto their partner’s hips or sides.  This position allows for optimal visuals for you both – you can each easily gaze into one another eye’s while both giving and receiving oral pleasure.

This position will work the core, quads, and hamstrings of the partner who is receiving pleasure.  For the partner offering oral pleasure, this will work their biceps and abdominals.  Try holding this position for 1 to 5 minutes and then switch out positions. 

 I hope you and your partner have a wild time changing up what might already be an old faithful position!  More information (including image) can be found on page 95 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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