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Predictors of Divorce

“Will my marriage last?” Wouldn’t that be a terrifying question to hear answered when you start couples therapy? However, Dr. John Gottman and his wife, Dr. Julie Gottman, have spent a career answering that question. In fact, with approximately 94 percent accuracy, Dr. Gottman has found a formula to predict the stability of a relationship within 15 minutes of meeting a couple.

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October Position of the Month: From Our Certified Sex Therapist

October’s highlighted position of the month is the Sensual Sit-Up, which is a more open variation of lotus.  As always, a sexual experience is a wonderful time to physically and emotionally connect with your partner, but it can also be an excellent time to do something physical together and get the blood pumping! 

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Utilizing I Feel Statements

Ever had an argument or conversation with a significant other where you walked away thinking, “That conversation did not start or end like I anticipated!”  I think most people can relate to this experience.  One of the most helpful things that I have found for couple is to start the conversation in a better, less defensive way so that the conversation continues to be more open and non-judgmental.  Dr. John Gottman has perfected the method for couples to begin a conversation in a non-defensive manner called softened start-ups.

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Withholding Affection

Often, I work with couples who, by the time they find themselves in my office, have built a mountain of resentment towards one another.  I have found that one of the things that helps in being able to process their resentment and move forward from it, is to talk about how two opposing truths can exist within the same emotional space.  Meaning that: one can be disappointed and hurt by something their partner has said and/or done, and can also still love their partner (show them physical and emotional love). 

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September Position of the Month Blog from Our Sex Therapist: Handrail

For September’s highlighted sexual position of the month, I thought I would share a position from a book that I recently purchased as a resource for clients.  When clients mention that they struggle to spice up their sex lives or the positions that they use, I often recommend for them to purchase a picture book of positions to help initiate and/or lead the conversation. 

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