April’s Position of the Month: Cheek to Cheek

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, LPC, CST
Certified Sex Therapist

April’s highlighted position of the month is the Cheek to Cheek.  Hopefully you and yours haven’t been hit with the dreaded spring allergies (have you also noticed the haze of yellow hanging in the air?) and are feeling up to some much-needed sexual connection.  While many are being vaccinated and life is beginning to get busy for many again, keep in mind healthy sex practices - please continue to wash your hands before and after a sexual experience!  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together!  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you and your partner(s) feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  Begin this experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (FYI – muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Cheek to Cheek on a soft surface, like a bed or soft blanket on the floor.  The penetrating partner will sit-up on their butt with their legs splayed into a “V” (for this partner, it might be more comfortable to allow for a slight bend in the knee).   Initially, both partners will be face to face for this position, with genitals also “cheek to cheek.”  The partner being penetrated will also sit on their butt.  The two of you will be somewhat intertwined as the partner being penetrated will bend their legs and place them behind their partner’s back (somewhat like a straddle) on the soft surface, for support.  The partner being penetrated can lean back for more pleasure (at which point eye contact is likely to be lost – this is absolutely okay).  If this occurs, the penetrating partner will help to support their partner, by firmly holding onto their waist/lower back.  The partner being penetrated can also squeeze their glutes against their partner’s inner legs for more support/pleasure. 

Once penetration has occurred, the two of you will work together to create a thrusting pace that is pleasurable for both.  Start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability.  For the penetrating partner, this position will work their lats, core, glutes, and quads.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their lower back, core, and glutes.  Since this position leans into a tantric experience, it is recommended to try out for 5 to 10 minutes (potentially longer is able to) and work towards creating a slower, thymic thrust pace.  Again, since this is a slower moving (tantric-esc) position, be conscious of foreplay and be sure to have lubrication on hand.  Lubrication is always important for trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it’s a benefit to have it be a grab away, versus realizing you are out!

Here’s to trying out something new this April!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 88 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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