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Being a therapist, I have a few “secrets” about human behavior. One is that the pursuit of happiness can sometimes be dangerous and destructive. I know, shocking for a therapist to say this, right? Give me a second to explain. We know from research that people constantly stay at a happiness level of 7 on a 1-10 scale. I witness this often in session, when someone is going on an amazing vacation, they rant about the service or weather.
Read MoreJuly’s highlighted position of the month is the Press the Flesh. This holiday weekend could be a great time to carve out some much-needed connection time with your partner.
Read MoreWelcome to part 7 of this blog series and thank you for following along! If you are just arriving and have not already identified your Enneagram type, I strongly recommend going back and also reading about Type 1, Type 2, Type 3 and Type 4, Type 5 and Type 6. To recap, I will be explaining all 9 Enneagram types and sharing personality specific self-care recommendations for each type. Many of these self-care ideas have been pulled from Christina S. Wilcox’s book, Take Care of Your Type.
Read MoreBoundaries have recently become quite the vogue topic in many dating spheres. However, gay men often struggle setting, enforcing, and maintaining healthy boundaries in dating relationships. Why? Well, the answer is different for everyone. But often, individuals in the LGBTQ+ community have been so invalidated in social and familial relationships that when someone comes along who appears to be offering the very validation and connection we have been looking for, for so long, we are willing to do anything to make it work. That desperation leads to a dissolution of our much-needed boundaries, and eventually, self-respect.
Read MoreMay’s highlighted position of the month is the Clutch to Climax. While many have been vaccinated and life is now busy for many again (or has always been busy, just a different busy now), keep in mind healthy sex practices - please remain cognizant to wash your hands (and use the restroom) before and after a sexual experience! If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together. Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins, which will help you and your partner(s) feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension. As I always recommend, begin this experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (FYI – muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).
Read MoreApril’s highlighted position of the month is the Cheek to Cheek. Hopefully you and yours haven’t been hit with the dreaded spring allergies (have you also noticed the haze of yellow hanging in the air?) and are feeling up to some much-needed sexual connection. While many are being vaccinated and life is beginning to get busy for many again, keep in mind healthy sex practices - please continue to wash your hands before and after a sexual experience! If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together!
Read MoreWelcome to part 3 of this blog series and thank you for following along! If you are just stumbling on this and have not already identified your Enneagram type, I strongly recommend going back and also reading about Type 1 and Type 2. To recap, I will be explaining all 9 Enneagram types and sharing personality specific self-care recommendations for each type.
Read MoreAs parents, we are often looking for ways to provide our children with resources, support, and care. Perhaps, you’ve noticed your teen would benefit from speaking with a therapist and you’re unsure of how to approach the conversation with them. In all my years in the mental health field, I have seen parents take one of two approaches, forgoing the conversation and bringing the teen to therapy without their knowledge, or preparing the teen for the first counseling appointment. I
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