September Position of the Month: Vertical Love Lift

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

September’s highlighted position of the month is the Vertical Love Lift.  As a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, and in the mood, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get blood flowing.  A sexual experience will also release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another, as well as release stress/tension.  In addition to keeping healthy sex practices in mind, I also recommend beginning any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury. 

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Vertical Love Lift while standing and facing towards one another.  The partner being penetrated will be held up by the penetrating partner.  The partner being penetrated can help to support and evenly distribute their weight by holding on to the penetrating partner’s hips.  The penetrating partner will want to support themselves by grabbing onto the wall in which they are holding their partner up against.  The partner being penetrated will want to tense their core which will help with penetration and remaining stable.  The penetrating partner will want to have a solid stance and thrust upwards once penetration occurs.  Once penetration has occurred, the penetrating partner will have nearly all of the control over the thrusting pace; be sure to communicate verbally/nonverbally about what feels pleasurable or what needs adjusting (moving to create a different entry angle, hip openness, moving to shift weight for either partner, etc.). 

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their lats, quads, and hamstrings.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their core and adductors.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes. 

Here’s to carving out some intentional and prioritized time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another.  For more information on the Vertical Love Lift (including image) can be found on page 83 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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