August Position of the Month: Down and Dizzy

 Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC

Lead Therapist at Heights Family Counseling

August’s highlighted position of the month is the Down and Dizzy.  As usual, it is recommended that if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexual engagement until both of you are feeling up to par!  And, as a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable and in the mood, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  In addition to keeping healthy sex practices in mind, I also recommend beginning any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury.  This position is also ideal for anal play and/or experimentation, so please be sure to have a thicker, heavier duty lubricant on hand.

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Down and Dizzy while being supported by a lower-height soft surface (like an ottoman, edge of a bed, or soft, supportive chair).  Both partners will have the lower portion of their legs supported on the soft surface (ottoman, chair, bed).  The partner being penetrated will be under the penetrating partner, with both of you facing towards the floor.  The partner being penetrated will support their upper body with their forearms (looking much like a forearm plank).  The penetrating partner will have their lower legs on the outside of the partner underneath them, and will also support their upper body with their arms.  In order to create enough space between the two of you (and not uncomfortably force weight onto each other), the penetrating partner will fully extend their arms to support themselves (think fully extended pushup pose).  Once both of you have stabilized and feel fully supportive of your own bodies, penetration and thrusting can begin.  Since this position can support anal play, it is incredibly important for the two of you to communicate with one another.  It might even be a helpful idea to have a safe word or signal in case either of you are unable to verbally communicate effectively with one another.  If you and your partner are not accustomed to anal play, I highly recommend working your way up with anal beds, vibrators, smaller dildos, etc. and then to full penetration with penis and/or peg. 

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their arms, chest, glutes, and hamstrings.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their core and lower back.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes. 

Here’s to carving out some intentional and prioritized time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 109 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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