December Position of the Month: Sultry Shoulder Press- From Our Certified Sex Therapist

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., LPC, NCC, CST

Certified Sex Therapist

December’s highlighted position of the month is the Sultry Shoulder Press.  A sexual experience is a wonderful time to emotionally connect with one another, but it can also be a great time to release some physical energy.  Before initiating this experience (or on a daily basis) it might be helpful to do some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience. 

This is a great position for those that enjoy maintaining eye contact during sexual experiences.  Ideally, you and your partner would try out this position on a soft surface, like a bed – especially in order to cushion the penetrating partner’s knees.  The penetrating partner will kneel on the soft surface, and then sit back on his/her heels.  The partner that is being penetrated will straddle (sitting on top of the penetrating partner’s thighs) their partner so that you are both face-to-face with one another.  This partner can also help to support themselves by firmly planting their feet on the surface, behind the penetrating partner.  The partner that is being penetrated will also support themselves by leaning back and on their arms/hands (engaging their deltoids).  The kneeling/penetrating partner will help to support their straddling partner by holding up their partner’s lower back.  Once penetrating has occurred, both partners will work together to find an ideal speed for thrusting.  The kneeling partner can lean forward on their knees to trust, and the leaning back partner will utilize their supporting arms to create a thrusting motion.  It is always a great idea to start slower and then speed up – again helping to avoid injuries.  As a heads up - for the penetrating (kneeling) partner, this position will work their biceps and quads.  For the partner being penetrated (leaning back), this position will work their deltoids and arms.  Once in this position, try holding it for 1 to 5 minutes.  

Due to the complexity of this position, I would recommend being conscious of foreplay prior to trying out this position and be sure to have lubrication on hand.  This can be especially important when trying out new positions that are not as routine for each of you; plus, it is always nice to have it be a grab away versus realizing you are completely out!

With holiday chaos ensuing for many, carve out some specific time to engage emotionally and sexually with your partner.  Plus, you will get to potentially add something new to your sexual repertoire with this new position!  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 190 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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