If you and your partner have recently welcomed home a new bundle of joy, first congrats! Second, I sincerely hope the two of you are adjusting to being new parents or parents again (and I’m also sending thoughts of rest and good sleep). Physical intimacy might be one of the furthest things from either of your minds right now – I’m looking at you, you sleep-deprived parents or new mommas who are breastfeeding – but, there will come a time when you and your partner are ready to explore physical intimacy again.
Read MoreLet’s talk about sex…Now that I have everyone’s attention, let’s really talk about sex. When a marriage is going through a dip, I often hear from my clients that their sexual intimacy also suffers. It makes sense because sex requires vulnerability with our partner.
Read MoreFebruary is American Heart Month, and as it is important to learn about and take care of your physical health, we also need to make sure we are taking care of our mental health. This blog features Heart Month from a mental health clinicians viewpoint:
Read MoreDecember’s highlighted position of the month is the Sultry Shoulder Press. A sexual experience is a wonderful time to emotionally connect with one another, but it can also be a great time to release some physical energy.
Read MoreI recently wrote about the predictors of divorce. As negative as the topic probably felt, it was very necessary. If we don’t know what to work on, counseling wouldn’t be very effective at strengthening the relationship.
Read MorePremarital counseling is not as common as you may think . . . or as common as may be warranted, considering today’s divorce rate. In my counseling experience, I see far more couples in distress, often on the verge of divorce, than I see couples preparing for a long healthy relationship together.
Read MoreIf you follow our social media pages, you may have noticed the influx of Gottman quotes that have been used in the past few weeks. These quotes have been pulled from their latest book, Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Eight Dates is a date guide about 8 different beneficial conversations that help connect and unify couples.
Read MoreThere are a lot of adults who are currently in survival mode with the holiday season in full swing, so I thought that this month’s highlighted position could provide some time for sexual connection with partners and still be a bit festive.
Read MoreY’all we are 9 weeks away from Christmas! When I heard this announcement on the radio earlier this week, my immediate thought was, “how is this even possible?” My next thought went directly to how much stress often comes with the holiday season. It can be easy to feed off stress, chaos, and frustration in all seasons of life, but somehow the holiday season often intensifies this experience for couples.
Read MoreThe seamless exchange of oxygen and carbon dioxide that keeps our bodies humming along. And even though it’s a process that is obviously incredibly crucial to our lives, it’s something we typically give very little thought to. It’s one of the hundreds of valuable processes that our bodies execute automatically, and, as such, requires very little of our conscious effort.
Read MoreOn average most couples wait 6 years of feeling unhappy in the relationship before seeking help! By this time, negative conflict patterns have been established, and many couples look for the therapist to be a referee instead of a marriage therapist.
Read More