February Position of the Month: Flex and Fondle
Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, CST, LPC
March’s highlighted position of the month is the Flex and Fondle. Hopefully things are beginning to calm down for you and yours after the chaos that ensued for many with the freak winter storm that swept much of the nation and state. Here’s to carving out some connecting time with your partner(s) for some much-needed sexual connection. As a friendly reminder, COVID is still being spread fairly rapidly, remember that if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexually engagement. As a healthy sex practice, please continue to wash your hands before and after a sexual experience. Plus, if it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together! Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you and your partner(s) feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension. Start this experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, which is the most common sexual injury.
Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Flex and Fondle on a soft surface, like a bed, wide sofa, or soft blanket on the floor. The penetrating partner will sit back on their butt, while folding their knees/legs underneath them. This partner should be cautious of how flexible they are and what feels good for their knees (since they will be folded underneath one another like a “M” shape). The partner that is being penetrated will lay on their back, facing towards the penetrating partner. The partner being penetrated will straddle one of their legs around their partner’s side and one leg over their partner’s shoulder, in order to stretch their hip flexors. This position gives both partners the opportunity to look and caress each other during the shared sexual experience. If desired, this position can be enhanced by having the penetrating partner rub massage oil on their partner’s torso (and breasts, if they have them).
Once penetration has occurred, the penetrating partner has the thrust control of the couple, creating a pace that is pleasurable for both. Start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability. For the penetrating partner, this position will work their quads and hamstrings. For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their glutes and hip flexors. Since this position can be straining for the knees of the penetrating partner, it is recommended to try out for 1 to 5 minutes. I would also highly recommend being conscious of foreplay and be sure to have lubrication on hand. Lubrication is always important for trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it’s a benefit to have it be a grab away, versus realizing you are out!
Here’s to trying out something new this March! More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 370 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.
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