March Position of the Month: Arch of Ecstasy

WRITTEN BY KATIE MITCHELL, M.A., NCC, LPC, NCC
CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST

The highlighted position of the month is here!  Since March is Women’s History Month, why not highlight a position built for a woman’s pleasure?  As always, I recommend that if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexual engagement until both feel up to par.  Plus, as a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  Since this is an oral sex position for cunnilingus, if you (or your partner) are self-conscious of hygiene/smell, it might help this experience by taking a shower together.

March’s highlighted position of the month is the Arch of Ecstasy.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  Start any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury. 

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Arch of Ecstasy on any soft surface (floor, bed, etc.).  Since the receiving partner will be kneeling, you might consider a soft-surface floor.  The performing partner will lay flat on their back.  The receiving partner will kneel, straddling their partner’s neck (genitals facing towards their partner’s face).  The receiving partner will then arch back, supporting their upper body with their hands by placing them right above the ankle (this will look like camel pose if you have any previous yoga experience).  The performing partner will wrap their arms/biceps around the outside of their partner’s hips, in order to help support.  The performing partner will perform cunnilingus on their partner; however, they can also kiss and caress their partner’s inner thighs.  This position would also be a great exercise for communicating pleasure with one another.   For example, the receiving partner might communicate what feels pleasurable; what they would like them to keep doing; moving up/down/left/right; and/or slow down or speed up. 

For the performing partner, this position will work their biceps.  For the receiving partner, this position will work their deltoids, core, lower back, and abdominals.  It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes. 

Here’s to celebrating the romantic woman(en) in your life this month!  I hope you and your partner are able to carve out some specific time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 75  of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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