November’s Position of the Month: Reinventing the Wheel
WRITTEN BY KATIE MITCHELL, M.A., NCC, LPC, NCC
CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST
November’s highlighted position of the month is the Reinventing the Wheel. With COVID variants continuing to spread and the holiday season quickly approaching, please keep healthy sex practices in mind! Remain cognizant to wash your hands (and use the restroom) before and after a sexual experience. A healthy, comfortable, and sensual way to start a sexual experience is to take a shower together. And, as always, it might be a good idea to rain check physical intimacy if either of you are feeling under the weather.
A sexual experience will release oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins, which will help to increase the emotional bond between you and your partner(s), plus it’ll also release stress and tension (which might be needed as the holiday season comes at us with lightning speed). As I always recommend, try to begin any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during physical intimacy (especially since muscle cramps/injuries are the most common sexual injuries).
Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Reinventing the Wheel on a well-supported floor. This position is a variation of wheelbarrow. In typical wheelbarrow fashion, the penetrating partner will support their partner at the waist. The partner being penetrated will support themselves by resting on their elbows/forearms. The partner being penetrated can also grasps their palms together for extra support, like is sometimes done when doing a plank. This same partner will also engage their hamstrings by wrapping their legs around and up their partner’s back. The partner being penetrated might want to use a pillow to rest their elbows/forearms. The penetrating partner will engage their quads by squatting some and holding this position as they begin to thrust.
Once penetration has occurred, the penetrating partner will have most of the control when setting the thrusting pace. Be sure to find a pace that is pleasurable for both by starting out slowly and then increasing movement as you both feel and express comfortability. For the penetrating partner, this position will work their traps, core, glutes, and quads. For the partner being penetrated, this position will also work their deltoids, traps, core, quads, and hamstrings. Due to the complexity of this position, it is recommended to only try out for 1 to 3 minutes. As a reminder, lubrication is always important to have on hand for trying out a new position that is not routine; plus, it’s a benefit to have it be a grab away, versus realizing you are out!
Here’s to carving out some time to try something new this November! And, it could be a great way to release some of the tension with the soon approaching holiday season. More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 27 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here. Consider Sex Therapy or Sex Coaching.
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