December Position of the Month: Deep Squat Desire- From Our Certified Sex Therapist
Written by Katie Michell, M.A., NCC., LPC, CST
There’s been a brief hiatus for the Position of the Month, but we’re back with a bang! Since COVID-19 is still surging all over, you and your partner are likely still spending a great deal of one on one time together! Add in holiday stress and covid fatigue, y’all might really be in need of a connecting and tension reliving exercise! The two of you might feel more comfortable following the recommendations that have been posted for Sex and the Coronavirus Pandemic (found here). If you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexually engagement. As a healthy sex practice, please continue to wash your hands before and after a sexual experience. Plus, if it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together!
December’s highlighted position of the month, is the Deep Squat Desire. While a sexual experience is a time to emotionally connect with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together. In the midst of a quarantine, remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension. As I always recommend, start by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (the most common sexual injury).
Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Deep Squat Desire against a supportive wall. Since the penetrating partner will be in a deep squat position, make sure they are able to firmly support themselves with their feet (consider what type of flooring will be most supportive for this partner). The penetrating partner will bend into a (very) deep squat. The partner being penetrated will straddle their squatting partner and lean back against the supportive wall for to help distribute weight more evenly (facing one another). The partner being penetrated can also help to support their partner by pushing their toes against the floor. Once penetration has occurred, the two of you will work together to create a thrusting pace that is pleasurable for all. It is often better to start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express pleasure aloud. This position can be quite the workout! When the penetrating partner can no longer stand the burn of their calves, they are welcome to stand up and finish. For the penetrating partner, this position will work their core, glutes, and quads. For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their quads and calves.
It is recommended to try this position out for 1 to 5 minutes. As you might guess this position requires a bit of flexibility and definitely feel like a workout! As always, try to be conscious of foreplay and be sure to have lubrication on hand. Lubrication can be especially important when trying out a new position that is not routine for you both. Plus, it is always nice to have lubrication be a grab away, versus being out when you’re in need!
With holiday chaos ensuing for many, carve out some specific time to engage emotionally and sexually with your partner. Plus, you will get to potentially add something new to your sexual repertoire with this new position! For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 201 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.
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