May Position of the Month: Bottom Dollar: From Our Certified Sex Therapist

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, LPC, CST

Certified Sex Therapist

Even though much of society is preparing for the re-opening of businesses, I still thought it pertinent to include some recommendations that have been posted for Sex and the Coronavirus Pandemic (found here).  The safest recommended person to have sex with is still yourself (YAY - for masturbation), and then the next safest person being someone that you live with, as you are already vulnerable to being exposed to one another.  If either of you are not feeling well, it is still a great idea to delay sexually engaging with one another.  As everyone has been recommending, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  Also, if it helps you both to feel more comfortable, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to begin this experience by taking a shower together!

May’s highlighted position of the month, is the Bottom Dollar.  While a sexual experience is a time to emotionally connect with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  In the midst of a quarantine, it could also help you both to feel more connected to one another.  As I always recommend, start by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience.  

This position is applicable for both vaginal and anal penetration, so be sure to discuss what type of play the two of you would like to take part in ahead of time.  Ideally, you and your partner would try this position out on a supportive, soft surface, such as sofa or potentially a soft/cushioned chair.  Since this is a rear-entry position, the two of you might have to play with different supportive surfaces/heights to maximize pleasure for you both.  The partner that will be penetrated will kneel on the soft, supportive surface, and support themselves by holding onto the back of the chair/sofa.  The penetrating partner will stand behind the partner they are penetrating and thrust at a pleasurable rhythm.  The penetrating partner can either hold onto their partner’s hips or rub on their breasts/nipples. 

Once penetration has occurred, the two of you will work together to create a thrusting pace that is pleasurable for all.  Start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability.  For the penetrating partner, this position will work their core, glutes, hip flexors, and hamstrings.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their core and glutes. 

Many people underestimate the amount of energy that it takes to thrust/penetrate a partner from behind; thus, it is only recommended to hold this position for 1 to 5 minutes.  Be conscious of foreplay and be sure to have lubrication on hand (especially if partaking in anal play).  Lubrication can be especially important when trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it is always nice to have lubrication be a grab away, versus being out when you’re in need!

Here’s to trying out something new out with one another, especially while quarantining together!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 302 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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