July Position of the Month: Sphinx Seduction

Written by Katie Mitchell, M.A., NCC, LPC, CST

Certified Sex Therapist

With COVID-19 cases surging in several states, you and your partner might feel more comfortable following the following recommendation for Sex and the Coronavirus Pandemic (found here).  The safest recommended person to have sex with is still yourself (masturbation FTW), and then the next safest person being someone that you live with, as you are already vulnerable to being exposed to one another.  If either of you are not feeling well, it might be a great idea to delay sexually engaging with one another.  Please continue to wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  Also, if it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start sexy-time by taking a shower together!

July’s highlighted position of the month, is the Sphinx Seduction.  While a sexual experience is a time to emotionally connect with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  In the midst of a quarantine, it could also help you both to feel more connected to one another and ease any stress that both of you might be feeling.  Remember that a sexual experience will still release Oxytocin and other endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  As I always recommend, start by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (most common sexual injury).  

This position is applicable for both vaginal and anal penetration, so be sure to discuss what type of play the two of you would like to take part in ahead of time.  Ideally, you and your partner would try this position out on a supportive, soft surface, such as a bed or maybe even putting a soft blanket down on a tabletop (if that would help with height differences between partners).  With this position being a rear-entry, the two of you might have to play with different supportive surfaces/heights to maximize pleasure for you both.  The partner that will be penetrated will tuck and fold themselves into a pose that looks similar to the yoga, Childs Pose (see here).  However, instead of extending the arms out in front, this partner will use their forearms to support themselves by placing at an angle that resembles the forearms of the Sphinx.  The partner being penetrated will want to make sure that they are in a position that can be held for a longer period of time and is not too extensive for their knees/hips.  The penetrating partner will stand behind the partner they are penetrating and thrust at a pleasurable rhythm.  The penetrating partner can either hold onto their partner’s hips or move their hands underneath their partner to rub on their breasts/nipples. 

Once penetration has occurred, the two of you will work together to create a thrusting pace that is pleasurable for all.  Start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability.  For the penetrating partner, this position will work their core, glutes, and hamstrings.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their glutes, quads, and abductors.    

It is recommended to try this position out for 5 to 10 minutes.  Try to be conscious of foreplay and be sure to have lubrication on hand (especially if partaking in anal play).  Lubrication can be especially important when trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it is always nice to have lubrication be a grab away, versus being out when you’re in need!

Here’s to trying out something new out with one another, especially while quarantining together!  More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 298 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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