April Position of the Month: Lusty Lotus

WRITTEN BY KATIE MITCHELL, M.A., NCC, LPC, NCC
CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST

The highlighted position of the month is here and as many are, you and your partner(s) might really be in need of connecting!  As usual, it is recommended that if you or your partner are not feeling well, you might consider delaying sexually engagement until both feeling up to par!  As a continued healthy sex practice, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience.  If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, start your shared sexual experience by taking a shower together!  

April’s highlighted position of the month is Lusty Lotus.  While a sexual experience can definitely aid in feeling emotionally connected with one another, it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release physical energy together.  Remember that a sexual experience will release Oxytocin and other beneficial endorphins that will help you both feel bonded to one another and release stress/tension.  As usually recommended, begin any sexual experience by doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience, as this is still the most common sexual injury.  For this position, it will be especially important to stretch out the upper body and hip flexors.

Ideally, you and your partner would try out the Lusty Lotus on a soft, supportive surface, such as a bed, sofa, soft blanket on the floor, etc.  The Lusty Lotus is a combination of two positions, Lotus and Missionary.  The partner being penetrated will lie on their back while having their legs crossed, much like Lotus pose (from yoga but on their back), over their mid-section/chest.  This partner should remember to not over-stretch their hamstrings and hips, but instead focus on finding a space that is comfortable for how far they are able to cross their legs over their mid-section.  The penetrating partner will be on-top much like in Missionary position; however, for this position they have to be even more mindful of supporting their upper body, as their partner’s crossed legs means that they will not be able to lower further down to their partner’s chest.  Once penetration has occurred, remember to communicate both verbally and non-verbally regarding a pace that works for both of you.  If natural lubrication is not enough for either partner, be sure to have lubrication on hand, as this is not a position that you want to try out without some form of lubrication (natural or store-bought). 

For the penetrating partner, this position will work their deltoids, chest, and glutes.  For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their abdominals, glutes, and hip flexors.  It is recommended to try this position out for 5 to 10 minutes. 

Here’s to carving out some intentional and prioritized time to engage emotionally and sexually with one another.  For more information for this specific position (including image) can be found on page 212 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.

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