April Position of the Month: Buck Up: From our Certified Sex Therapist
Written by Katie Michell, M.A., LPC, NCC, CST
In light of the COVID-19 pandemic that is happening, I wanted to begin this month’s highlighted position of the month with some recommendations that have been posted for Sex and the Coronavirus Pandemic (found here). It is recommended that the safest person to have sex with would be yourself (YAY - for masturbation), and then the next safest person being someone that you live with, as you are already vulnerable to being exposed to one another. If either of you are not feeling well, it would be a good idea to delay sexually engaging with one another. And, as everyone has been recommending, please wash your hands before and after a sexual experience. If it helps you both to feel more comfortable, it would also be a great idea to begin this experience by taking a shower together!
April’s highlighted position of the month, is the Buck Up. A sexual experience is a time to emotionally connect with one another, but it is also a great time to get your blood pumping and release some physical energy together. In the midst of a quarantine, it could also help the two of you to feel more connected, while also release tension. As always, before initiating a sexual experience, I highly recommend doing some light stretching together to help avoid injuries and/or muscle cramps that might arise during a sexual experience (this is also a great practice to integrate into your daily life).
Ideally, you and your partner would try out this position out on a supportive, soft surface, such as a bed, sofa, or ottoman (might want to try any/all to see which one is a better fit considering height). The partner that will be penetrated will sit on the very edge of the soft, supportive surface. This partner will also lean back on their elbows to help support themselves. The penetrating partner (who will be facing their partner) will kneel either next to the bed, sofa, or ottoman. This partner will help to support the partner they are penetrating by holding their partner’s waist with their hands (this will also act as support for the kneeling partner when they begin thrusting). For added support, the partner being penetrated will wrap their legs around their partner waist and cross their ankles (if possible). When ready for penetration, I highly recommend that the two of you play with your pelvic tilts and what angle feels most pleasurable (a great opportunity to practice open communication with one another).
Once penetration has occurred, the two of you will work together to create a thrusting pace that is pleasurable for all. Start out slowly and then increase movement as you both feel and express comfortability. For the penetrating partner, this position will work their traps, core, and glutes. For the partner being penetrated, this position will work their deltoids, glutes, and adductors. Be mindful that this position will require a bit more flexibility for the partner being penetrated, than the penetrating partner.
Since this position keeps both of you fairly supported, it is recommended to hold for 5 to 10 minutes. I would still recommend being conscious of foreplay and be sure to have lubrication on hand. Lubrication can be especially important when trying out a new position that is not routine for you both; plus, it is always nice to have lubrication be a grab away, versus being out when you’re in need!
Here’s to trying out something new out with one another, especially while quarantining together! More information for this specific position (including a visual image) can be found on page 178 of The Kama Sutra Workout, and this book can be purchased from Amazon here.
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