The therapeutic relationship is one of my favorite topics to discuss. Why? Because of the impact that it has on the outcome of therapy. It is also referred to as the therapeutic alliance, working alliance, and the therapeutic bond. The therapeutic relationship is a special bond, or connection, that develops between the therapist and the client over a period of time.Read More
Hey mommas, you got this.
You are exhausted.
Sometimes you feel like you don’t even like this,
The guilt sinks in.
You wonder am I even enough.
Hey mommas, you got.Read More
Since the final installment of the 50 Shades trilogy has been released, 50 Shades Freed, I thought that I would share some of my personal and professional views about the trilogy. I understand that the release of the books and movies provided many people with a new desire for passion within their relationship. Many people discovered that they were very turned on by the idea of having a dominating sexual partner and/or interested in trying out different kinky behavior. Being a very sex positive person, I think this was a great aspect of the resulting frenzy created by 50 Shades.Read More
I have been wanting to create a blog series promoting a different sexual position each month. I thought this would be an interesting way to help bring some creative fun to our audiences’ sexual lives. If nothing else, trying some of these with a partner might provide a good laugh! As many of you are aware, Heights Family Counseling is an all-inclusive counseling practice, so there will be months that I will share heteronormative positions, but there will also be months that I share information regarding positions specifically meant for other sexual lifestyles. I am very excited to bring this series to you all. I hope you enjoy trying these positions out - let the fun begin!Read More
We have all felt guilt and shame before, but do you know the different between the two? Before attending a seminar on guilt, shame, and resilience, (given by Allison Marek LCSW, CDWF and inspired by Brené Brown’s research on shame, vulnerability and connection), I do not think that I would have been able to accurately describe the difference between guilt and shame. After the seminar I felt enlightened by what I had learned. Here is what I took away from it and I hope that you can take something away from it as well.Read More
Self-care is yes, taking care of oneself, but it goes deeper than that. It is being intentional about taking care of oneself, emotionally and physically. It is listening to what your body is telling you. Sometimes, amidst our busy lives, it is easy to get caught up in what everyone else needs and forget our own needs.Read More
I’ve been sharing some of my thoughts as they pop up the past week or two on the Heights Family Counseling Twitter: “Relax, you don’t need all the answers all at once. You’ll get there with time. ~Amy- my own self-soothing thoughts today” or “Just breathe. Everything is going to be okay. You got this; you've survived 100 % of bad days before. ~Amy- because sometimes we need to hear what our brain doesn't always tell us!”Read More
As Valentine’s Day soon approaches, the National Retail Federation expects that holiday spending will exceed $18.2 billion for the United States. This means that on average each individual will be spending around $135! If you are anything like me, this seems like a whooping number, especially when you take into consideration that this is likely being spent by two people in a relationship – that’s a total of $270! In light of this information, I wanted to share with you all some ways to connect with your partner that do not cost near this much money!Read More
An evaluation has an even bigger opportunity for your child to be seen fully. Sure, your child might struggle to read and write, but their creativity is off the charts! Or, social communication is a challenge, but your child connects on his level by sharing all the facts he knows about his friends’ interests. AD/HD might be a diagnosis that helps your child channel all of his energy into a sport. These are the things that I see during an evaluation.Read More
As a person, a woman, and a sex therapist who spends a great deal of her professional and personal life validating the feelings of others, I was saddened, frustrated, and disappointed to read a recent article regarding a woman’s terrible experience while on a date with comedian, Aziz Ansari.Read More
“Officer you have to arrest her!” Like most good stories, this one starts with someone suggesting I should be arrested. But before I share this story, let’s talk about how my confidence never waned despite the rather unusual circumstances.Read More
I read an article earlier this week about a survey that was conducted in 2013 by Princeton on American’s use of the internet. This survey found that 25% of the sampled couples reported that their partner’s phone had been a distraction while spending time together. When I read this article, I immediately began to think about the implications of these findings and how knowing this information could help to create change for couples.Read More