Managing a Meltdown

Last week, you read about how to tame a tantrum. This week, I want to provide you with further information on how to identify and help your child cope with a meltdown. Remember, tantrums often are a result of a trigger that a child can recognize. A meltdown is usually a result of overstimulation. For example, a child may have a tantrum if they do not get a toy at the store. A child may have a meltdown if they are surrounded by too many people in their class room.

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November Position of The Month From Our Sex Therapist: The Wishbone

Now that Halloween has been celebrated, we are quickly approaching the holiday season.  For November’s position of the month, I thought it would be fun to share a Thanksgiving themed position, the Wishbone. 

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Taming a Tantrum

You’re in the grocery store, you see a child screaming, crying, and hiding behind a rack of clothes. We’ve all probably witnessed a version of this. We quietly say in our heads, “they sure know how to throw a tantrum.” I’ve worked with many parents who seek counseling for tantrums. As I began working with more and more children, I noticed a difference in the language. Some parents would describe their child’s behavior as tantrums while others expressed them as meltdowns. Curious, I did some research.

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Seasonal Affective Disorder

love all things summer. Long, hot days with seemingly endless sunshine. Swimming. Vacations. Staycations. Outdoor sports. Beach days. Watermelon, strawberries, cantaloupe, pineapple. The list goes on. The only two things I don’t love about summer are mosquitos and the end of my favorite season. As the sun starts setting earlier and the temperature drops, so does my mood. This dreary, rainy Tuesday, I’m really feeling it.

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Sensory Processing Disorder and Halloween

            Sensory processing occurs when our nervous system integrates information from our senses and organizes it in to appropriate behavioral responses, according to the situations we are in (Bennie, 2010). Sensory Processing Disorder or SPD occurs when, “sensory signals are either not detected or don’t get organized into appropriate responses” (“About SPD,” 2018).

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Coping with Relational Stress as the Holidays Approach

Y’all we are 9 weeks away from Christmas!  When I heard this announcement on the radio earlier this week, my immediate thought was, “how is this even possible?”  My next thought went directly to how much stress often comes with the holiday season.  It can be easy to feed off stress, chaos, and frustration in all seasons of life, but somehow the holiday season often intensifies this experience for couples. 

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The Power of Pause

I work with children and parents who often have trouble “pausing”. As humans, our first instinct is to react when a situation arises. When our child is not listening to us, our first instinct is to respond with a demand. It usually sounds something like, “If you don’t _____, I will____”. These reactions, in part, are due to time restraints, stress, and a lack of understanding of what our child’s behavior may be indicating.

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Perspective-Taking in Children

I once had a child tell me that taking someone else’s perspective is impossible. Children, especially those diagnosed with ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorders, tend to take things literally and struggle with perspective-taking. This is because of a child’s cognitive development. Jean Piaget, a renowned psychologist and child development theorist, developed the stage theory of cognitive development that is still used to understand children today. This theory includes 4 stages

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Heights Family Counseling Anniversary- Pause, Reflect, Celebrate, and Shift

According to LinkedIn, today marks a year that Heights Family Counseling has been open. I have a love for dates. They allow us to pause, reflect, celebrate, and shift.

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All Behavior is Communication

Listening to the behavior and responding to the emotion the child is trying to communicate is the path to fostering emotion regulation.

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How to Pick a Therapist for Your Teenager

I can remember it like it was yesterday. The awkward silence. The “I am not really sure why I am here.” And the thoughts of, “can I really trust this person?” I wasn’t sure what to say, so I casually noted her nails and asked about her manicure. We had awkward banter for 10 minutes about her nails, and before I knew it I was in a waiting room, and my father was in her office.

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Position of the Month: Sexual Fantasies- From Our Certified Sex therapist-Candidate

For October’s position of the month, I decided to go in a bit of a different direction that usual.  Instead of highlighting one specific position, I thought that I would share some pointers on discussing sexual fantasies with partners.  With this information in tow and a spirit of playfulness, the two of you will be sure to have a freaky-fun Halloween! 

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