Withholding Affection

Often, I work with couples who, by the time they find themselves in my office, have built a mountain of resentment towards one another.  I have found that one of the things that helps in being able to process their resentment and move forward from it, is to talk about how two opposing truths can exist within the same emotional space.  Meaning that: one can be disappointed and hurt by something their partner has said and/or done, and can also still love their partner (show them physical and emotional love). 

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Are we putting too much pressure on our children?

Pressure. I feel it, you feel, and our children feel it. We feel the pressure to succeed, the pressure to be the best parent, and the pressure to raise successful children. Our society has created this undue pressure to “be the best.” It is normal to see high schools placing pressure on good grades and getting accepted into desirable colleges.

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Am I really busy?

I’m just SO busy. A statement I hear coming from my mouth many times a week. With life, work, volunteering, and keeping a house together, it seems there is no time left in the day for projects and activities I still want to do. I have a list of “to-dos” that are left undone at the end of the day. But, am I really as busy as I think I am? If I’m being honest, probably not. My busyness does not always mean that I am being productive.  

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How to know when you are flooded

With the anniversary of Hurricane Harvey and the threat of Hurricane Florence on the East Coast, the major effects of flooding have been weighing on my mind lately. Did you know that you can become flooded, too?

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September Position of the Month Blog from Our Sex Therapist: Handrail

For September’s highlighted sexual position of the month, I thought I would share a position from a book that I recently purchased as a resource for clients.  When clients mention that they struggle to spice up their sex lives or the positions that they use, I often recommend for them to purchase a picture book of positions to help initiate and/or lead the conversation. 

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The Importance of Empathy

Empathy. The word of the year. We hear about it from researchers, teachers, therapists, and our fellow parents. As humans, we could all use a little more empathy. We often confuse empathy with sympathy. To sympathize is to feel bad for how another is feeling; to empathize is to genuinely sit with another in their feeling. Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another. Today I want to talk about the importance of empathy in parenting.

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Speaking the Language of Love

Have you ever had the experience where you did something for your partner and then received no recognition for it?  Did this experience then follow up with the thought, “I would have loved for them to do this same thing for me!  Why are they not appreciating me or saying anything about it?”  T

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The Shame Box

I once had a client in a group therapy session tell me, “That’s stored in a box labeled ‘shame.’ I don’t touch that box.” I inwardly gasped, and thought to myself, “That’s why you keep coming back. It’s going to haunt you till you face it.” At the time, I was working in a partial hospitalization program with clients who struggle with addiction and mental health disorders, a.k.a. dual diagnosis clients, a population with a single-digit success rate.

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Effective Communication

We all have those days where kids are running around, and it feels like everything we say goes in one ear and out the other. This usually leads to frustrated kids and even more frustrated parents. Children may insist they didn’t hear us, and parents insist, “I’ve told you ten times!” Communication with children can be hard. Here are a few tips to make it easier.

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Your Flexible Brain

This is also known as flexible thinking. Stephanie Madrigal and Michelle Garcia Winner, authors of Superflex: A Superhero Social Thinking Curriculum, use the term Superflex Thinking. Superflex Thinking is defined as, “a flexible thinking pattern in which a person is able to consider different points of view or ways to do something”

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A Note to the College Freshman

As I’m sure it has already been impressed upon you, you are about to embark on an incredible life change. Everything is your world is likely going to shift 180 degrees, as you move away from your home, your family, your friends, and the structure of school that you knew before.


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Age Appropriate "Sex Talks:" When to Have "Those" Conversations

Many parents dread the age that their child is old enough that they “need” to have a talk about sex.  A lot of parents are completely confused about what information is age appropriate and when exactly these conversations should even start.  I am here to help with the confusion!  With many kids starting a new year of school this week, the need to begin or continue talking about sexuality is even more important! 

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