During the busyness of the holiday season, don’t forget to compassion and self-compassion. Almost everyone is experiencing a hardship you might not know or understand. You might even get sucker punched with a wave of sadness or grief. Use these moments to name the emotion, take care of yourself, and to exercise compassion for others.
Read MoreThis is a time I would normally panic; my thoughts would go in a negative spiral, and I would make this about a flaw in my character instead of realizing it was just a bad situation, i.e. “I’m not good enough because I can’t make appointments on time.” Yet, something was different this time; this time I felt intense gratitude. I acknowledged my feelings, “Yup, this kind of sucks,” then I acknowledged there was nothing I can do about it, “my stressing will not magically clear the freeway.” I then did something I tell my clients to do, I took an action that was the opposite of my feeling
Read MoreWhen I talk to my clients about cognitive reframing, thought stopping, mindfulness, and intentional acts of positivity, I sometimes get questions of “but how does this really work?
Read MoreThe world is not really full of extremes, such as “good people” and “bad people.” Yet somehow people tend to think of things in a very polarized manner.
Read MoreOne of the first statements I often hear is that, "I do not need counseling; nothing is wrong with me!" While this is likely true, and I truly believe that counseling is not for “fixing” a person, but instead providing a safe place to work through life’s difficulties,
Read MoreEveryone has days where everything seems negative. You might be in a “funk” and feel like you can’t snap out of it. Here are some tips to instantly improve your mood.
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