Co-regulation: Infancy to Pre-school

Children experience periods of rapid growth in areas of the brain associated with self-regulation. Piggy- backing off of the toddler years, it is important to continue to reinforce emotion identification, perspective-taking, calm down strategies, and problem-solving. I can not express enough how important it is to model the behavior and skills you are teaching your children.

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The Five Love Languages

Dr. Gary Chapman’s decades-old book, The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, attempts to unveil the mystery of effectively showing our partner love, as well as how we receive love. We all make efforts to show our love in one way or another, so it can be frustrating and disheartening when a partner says he or she feels invisible, unloved, or unimportant. “How can they not know?”, we wonder. “I never get any credit for my efforts.”

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Co- regulation: what does it mean?

Self- regulation is foundational in fostering wellbeing across the lifespan and it begins with childhood. Have you ever witnessed an adult who “blows up” or becomes mute when adverse situations occur? Me too. Adults who exhibit these behaviors were once children who were never taught emotion regulation skills. So, one may be asking, “how do I teach my children self-regulation”? It begins with co-regulation.

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Bed-Wetting

 

Enuresis, also known as bed-wetting, is an elimination disorder common in children that can occur both involuntarily and intentionally. Approximately 5 to 7 million children experience bed-wetting (Baird, Seehusen, and Bode, 2014). Dr. Kimberly Levitt reported that bed-wetting is twice as likely to occur in boys, is more common in children with a family history of bed-wetting, and children with ADHD are more likely to experience bed-wetting (2018). There are three types of enuresis:

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50 Ideas for Valentine’s Day

          With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, I wanted to offer you all some thoughts for how to share the day with your partner (if the two of you celebrate the holiday)! 

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Teaching Kids Body Boundaries

Imagine you are getting ready to leave when grandma reaches down and kisses their grandchild. Your child accepts the kiss but as soon as they get in the car, they express their strong dislike for grandma’s kisses. You feel conflicted on what to say. You don’t want to hurt grandmas feelings, but you also want to make your kid feel comfortable. This is a common situation and a perfect open door to begin talking to your child about their body boundaries and consent.

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Coffee and Mental Health

I would like to share something more personal for this week’s blog. Recently, I have been battling with my own anxiety and panic attacks. As difficult as it is to go though, I believe this experience has given me tremendous empathy for my clients and those suffering from anxiety disorders. One morning I woke up with an extremely elevated heart-rate.

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February Position of the Month: The Super Soaker: From Our Certified Sex Therapist

For this month’s highlighted sexual position, I thought that I would share something a bit different than past months.  With Valentine’s Day in just a couple of weeks, here is a “move” that could be a sexual experience all on its own or paired with other experiences afterwards! 

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The Volcano and The Turtle

Once upon a time, there was a Volcano and Turtle. No, this is not a kid’s story about speed or racing or pacing or how to get ahead. It’s a story about passion and composure. Intensity and calm. Eruption and shelter.

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Common Sexual Injuries

Most of us could probably agree that one thing that will absolutely kill libido quicker than anything else is incurring an injury while engaging in sexual activity.  Although it might surprise you, injuries during sexual activity is pretty common. 

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Panic Attacks and Panic Disorder in Children and Teens

Anxiety disorders are common but can be difficult to diagnose in children. Panic attacks occur within the realm of anxiety disorders; however, they are not exclusive to anxiety disorders. Your child may complain about physical symptoms such as stomachaches, headaches, or other aches and pains.

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